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Sebelum terlupa, ada benda aku nak cerita ni. kejadian ni berlaku masa aku baru turun bas dari TBS and tengah jalan kat bridge yang nak ke stesen KTM. Masa tu aku nak attend majlis kahwin cousin aku kat Subang. Tapi ada detour sikit lah, aku pergi KL sentral lepas tu naik LRT ke Jelatek, jumpa tunang dulu kejap lepas tu hantar aku ke Subang terus lepas keluar dari ofis.
Kalau betul la tu tipu,
Cerita dia macam ni, based on memory aku lah sepanjang kejadian yang berlaku dalam lima minit je lebih kurang. Tengah jalan kaki kat bridge tu, ada seorang lelaki cina tahan aku and bagi satu keping kad yang boleh koyak and tengok apa dia tulis kat dalam tu. Dialog kitorang lebih kurang macam ni. Aku tak lah ingat the whole conversation sebab aku punya soul, body, and mind dah ada dalam kereta saga dia. Hewhew
LC (lelaki cina tu) : halo kak, ni ada satu kad. Kak koyak tengok apa dalam dia. Kalau tulis ‘terima kasih, boleh pulang balik pada saya.
Aku: apa ni? (sambil try koyak kertas tu) macam mana nak koyak?
LC: koyak ikut garisan ni. (okey memang obvious ada garis putus2) lepas tu ah tengok apa dalam dia. Kalau ‘terima kasih’ means kak tak dapat apa2. Kalau ada kaler hijau kak refer sini ah ada macam2 hadiah ma. (sambil tunjuk reference apa entah aku pun tak ingat sangat. Reference tu lebih kurang macam ni: hijau – rm100, biru – rm500, merah – rm1000, kuning – rm5000, kelabu – hadiah misteri)
Aku: okey dah koyak. warna kelabu. (nada tak ada perasaan)
LC: warna kelabu. Wow! Kak you taw ah you orang pertama yang dapat warna kelabu. Tak ada orang pernah dapat oh. You sangat bertuah ah. (nada excited yang obvious dibuat2). Ini ada list nombor and hadiah yang you boleh dapat. (okey ada reference lagi. Banyak gak hadiah aku tengok. List hadiah tu lebih kurang macam ni: 1 – barang electric macam peti ais, 2 – kereta apa ntah, 3 – percutian ke japan, 4 – 12 apa ntah lagi tak ingat gamba2 barang2 yang die tunjuk) You tengok dekat bulatan kelabu ada nombor berapa? (sambil tu ada la dia tanya aku dari mana, kerja apa).
Aku: tak ada nombor pun.
LC: mesti la tak ada. You kena pegi scan kat jusco tengok die kelua nombor berapa. Kalau keluar no 3 boleh pergi melancong ke japan maa. (and apa lagi ntah dia bebel2 pasal bercuti tu…and tunjuk gambar2 customer dia yang ‘bertuah’ tu tayang2 hadiah yang diorang dapat, maybe nak emphasize pasal company tak perlu bayar tax) nanti u ambil gambar macam diorang yang dapat hadiah ni maa. Sangat bertuah (sambung membebel lagi…)
Aku: (terus potong cakap dia) okey now apa I kena buat?
LC: okey now jom pergi ofis ambil rm7000.
Aku: now? alaa mana ada masa (sambil tengok jam, dah bazir 5 minit. Menyesal pulak ambil kad tu) I tak nak lah.
LC: kalau tak nak u boleh bagi orang lain. Tapi rugi la u.
Aku: (sambil bagi balik kad tu) ha ok bagi lah orang lain. (terus blah dari situ)
Kalau betul la tu tipu,
Aku malas nak fikir apa2 lepas tu. Bila dah sampai UTM baru teringat balik. Maybe masa tu aku pakai baju kurung polkadot and tudung bawal, dia ingat aku orang kampung yang tak taw apa2 kot. Lagi2 bila dia offer macam2 hadiah and cash money. Bila die buat2 excited konon-kononnya aku pemenang bertuah, belum pernah orang lain menang yang ‘warna kelabu’ tu, dia ingat aku tak ada experience kot. Mak pernah kena, abah pon kena. Both my parents ditawarkan ‘hadiah’ lebih kurang macam tu la. Bila dengar betul2 explanation diorg, memang ada ‘product or hadiah’ yang diorg offer tu, tapi kena bayar mahal gila. Aku pon tak faham, kalau betul la nak bagi hadiah kepada customer, kenapa nak suruh bayar? Masa abah kena tu, diorg siap cek duit dalam akaun lagi. Lepas tu senang2 hati je naikkan nilai yang nak kena bayar tu. Alasan diorg, taknak bayar tax mahal hujung tahun nanti, tu yang diorg bagi hadiah kat customer. Okey yang tu logic jugak. Tapi yang kena bayar tu? ribu2 pulak tu. Masa mak kena pon, diorg taw mak tak kerja tapi stil suruh mak bayar certain amount sebelum dapat hadiah tu. Aku bukan pandai economy and bisness pon. Tapi macam berbau ‘phishing’ lah. Tapi lastnye parents tak nak ambik risiko and just tinggalkan je orang2 tu.
Kalau betul la tu tipu,
Aku yang dah memang tengah rushing masa kat bridge tu, memang tak teringin langsung la nak investigate or try mana taw memang dapat pergi ke jepun. Heh.
Apa yang dapat aku simpulkan dari peristiwa2 tu, okey diorg memang ada marketing skill yang bagus. Tapi lagi bagus kalau gunakan skill diorg tu untuk majukan company2 kat Malaysia ni, instead of tipu orang macam aku ni. Tapi tu pon kalau betul la tu tipu.
1. Got the chance to meet supervisor. Our weekly appointment is on Wednesday 9.30am. I still need to re-review my research title.
2. mybrain15 vs MARA. I have to cancel one of these. Still considering about which one I should take.
3. Recent blood test shows Thyroxine, T4 reduced from 16.0 to 6.3 ug/dL while TSH still 0.00 where it should be in the range of 0.30-4.64 mlU/L. after two months I need to do the test again.
4. Mirra and I are partnering for a presentation. She chose the topic of Illuminati & Freemason.
5. What is still inside my head is that for the past 2 months I have been visiting him and his family. During those ‘quality time’ I spent with his mom while having breakfast, lunch, dinner, and cooking together, she emphasized so many times that I have the fullest responsibility in making the family happy. I need to have a job, wake up early in the morning to prepare breakfast for husband, do all the laundry and keep the house clean, do all the work in the kitchen very2 quickly because I will have children and husband who prefer to have dinner at home, and for now I need to learn so many recipes and be very good in the kitchen. *sigh… plus there are so much tips about taking care of family that I could not recall for now. I already have anticipated all the challenges of being a wife and mother but sometimes I feel that I’m not ready yet. I need support but sometimes it is not the right ‘support’ that I received thus makes me feel the pressure which is I’m not sure when to exactly experience it, whether now or long time ago or one month before we get married.
6. I would like to present a suggestion (at least for now that I’m thinking about this) when we have children. I want to split the responsibilities where I do ALL the things that mothers usually do (laundry - cooking - housecleaning - send kids to school - take care of every family member’s tummy and clothing - get everyone satisfied with the meal and love from me) *I’m not sure where is the part of me working* while he work – manage the money – take care of every family member’s safety & health – kids education (all academic, moral, sense of patriotism, fardhu ain) – prepare a place to live.
Both of us don’t have any experience and skills and I think it is the time to work very hard towards building a happy family. I know it is tiring to think about that and even to read this.
there are so much things that i want to spill out of my head right now. i prefer talk to him but he seems busy. i just don’t want to fill in his head with my problems. not necessarily problems but some issues that i have i do need his opinion and his words are usually comforting which lead to rational belief and action.
i’ll just write everything here then; when i have the mood to do so.
Marriage is not a simple thing. Everyone has been talking about that. Yes I know that marriage needs full commitment and cooperation. I have been seeing how my parents live through it. They were independent and strong. I really hope that I will survive no matter what happen to us.
Talking about being independent; how do you define it? Is it referring to being free or working hard on your own effort without depending on other people’s help? Why am I saying about this is that I have been thinking about us. I’m not wondering if we are making a good decision. I’m not asking for anyone’s opinion. I’m just hoping that we are doing it at the right time and with the right intention.
I believe that nobody knows when the right time to do anything big in their life is. They have doubts and thoughts whether to further study abroad or getting a job or getting married. They pray and sometimes they just do it with some force from parents or some other party. Anyhow they manage to accomplish it.
» About transportation and place to live; his parents has taken care of those. In fact; that is the place for us to live in after we are married. Before this he studied abroad in pursuing his bachelor degree with the direction provided by his parents. It seems that his parents did all the decision-making for the where when which and what; including the date of our wedding day. I could not say anything about that since my parents agreed with every decision made. Most people who read this will get the idea that his parents have a full authority for making all decisions for and about his life.
As a future wife of his; I see that situation from a different angle. I mean; I have to be grateful that I don’t have to work hard to get money for our wedding preparation. My parents are kindly helping. They renovate the home; add more furniture; and allocate a master bedroom for us. About the “hantaran” they never mention the exact value that he needs to give to us for the preparation of the event. They do not even mind if we get married early with no job yet. They welcome us warmly whenever we want to live in that house.
About his parents’ effort; I see that as a blessing. Even though I will live with parents-in-law; I will be very grateful since they have already acknowledged me as their new family member. The good thing about this is that we don’t have to buy a new house and new car and work very hard in order to start a new life. No; I never had the intention to be a gold digger. Before we started our relationship; I never know that his parents have these houses and those cars. I love him for the way he is. I never expect anything other than his love for me.
Most of my girl friends will say this “no need la duduk dengan mak mertua. Macam2 masalah nanti”; when I tell them about our plan. Like I said earlier; I will see this situation from a positive angle. I keep telling myself that he has only one mother and one father. Those persons raised him in a very good way from he was a kid until now; that he lives and get the chance for us to meet and love. I feel really bad if I ‘take’ him away from his parents since his responsibility to his parents are vastly greater than his responsibility to me. He and his only brother are the babies of their parents. I already accepted the fact that one day I will be helping them to take care of their parents. Just like my mother has been doing.
Actually the case is about the same. My father has three all-male-siblings. After my grandfather passed away; it seemed like the other siblings did not want to take care of my grandmother. At that time we have already moved to a new house (that one in Taman Mewah). After a couple of years ulang-alik from home to kampung finally my parents made a decision to bring grandmother to live together in our house; after a series of slow talks and renovation of the room.
I already have a mind-set that I will participate in taking care of his parents. I will be with him when he makes his parents happy just like what they did to him when he was small. I will accompany him when he stays at the hospital taking care of his parents just like what they did when he was hospitalized at a very young age. I will support him when he buys something for his parents just like when they bought him toys and gadgets. I won’t mind if he invests some money for his parents’ health just like they did for his studies. My parents will be proud if I can be a good wife just like my mother.
Hopefully I won’t perceive this responsibility as a burden. I just want to see him satisfied after he fulfils all the responsibilities. I want to help him to be a good son. I believe that most good husbands to their wives are good sons to their parents. I just hope that we have those mental strength and physical health to face the future challenges together.
post status pelik2 kt fb: ada yang tak suka. tweet pelik2: ada jugak yang tak suka. thanks tumblr sudi faham perasaan ni. wuhuuu~
btw button coma macam rosak je. so tak boleh coma. either stop or terus je huhu
Take-home test Question 2: discuss how life triangular diagram in managing our life view the danger of artificial sweetener among the work force.
<dari 20 markah, agak2 dapat berapa ni, huehue>
Life triangular diagram describes on how we manage our life, by considering three aspects of what (goal), who (human), and how (system structure). Before we go deeper to those aspects, there are series of discussions and debates about clarifying the meaning of ‘life’. One of our friends in class defined ‘life’ as the situations that we face every day, which contribute to learning process and gaining experience from those situations. The situations include attending lectures, helping elderly, and teach our children to cross the road safely. The definition of ‘life’ might differ from other people’s view, due to the different level of education and experience they have. Young people would define ‘life’ as a learning process, where they will learn new things every day to gain experience, and use the experience to gain and spread new knowledge. The matured old people would say that ‘life’ is a basis of preparing ourselves to meet the Creator.
Based on their experience, old people tend to realize that this ‘life’ is just temporarily lent to us. We should prepare ourselves with enough knowledge and good deeds that we deliver to other people, so that we are ready to leave this ‘life’ and continue the journey to meet the Creator. Yes, ‘life’ is best defined as ‘journey’ based on those statements. It is supported by the Holy Quran that our life begins at Loh Mahfuz, where we are not born yet, but everything is written there. Our fate, career, love, future, and the moment when we die are all written during this stage.
After we are born, the world is perceived by some people as it is forever. They will work hard to get so much money so that they can live in luxury. After all the luxury and ‘happiness’ they have, they will forget the main purpose of living in this world, which might make them turn against the religion and moral value. After death, we will gather into the other world namely ‘Alam Barzakh’, ‘Makhsyar’ and later ‘Akhirat’. ‘Akhirat is the final destination where we are judged and granted Jannah or Hell according to our deeds while we are alive. By knowing this, human should have set their goals, whether it is short term or long term.
The goal-settings are intended to manage their life, so that they can achieve both success in this world, and the world hereafter. The significance of this is that, short term goal has a relationship with long term. This means, we must do our best in every stage. Otherwise, we will fail in the next stage. For example, we must be good in understanding and practicing all Rukun Islam and Rukun Iman. By knowing, understanding, and practising these principles, we will become a good Muslim and carry the responsibility as a Khalifah in this world. By being a good Muslim in this world, we are promised to be placed in Jannah during the Akhirat stage. So the short term goal here is practising Rukun Islam and Rukun Iman to be a good Muslim in this world, and the long term goal is getting a place in Jannah. It is very important for all Muslims to aware of this situation.
However, some people fail to distinguish between short and long term. This happens especially when they all nowadays have been doctrinized to achieve success. They focus on achieving success in everything they do. In industry, they tend to focus on productivity and profitability. Their success is measured by quantity of their production and high revenue, to support their survival in industry. The ‘survival’ and ‘continuity’ of making profit is seen as long term goal in their point-of-view. One example of this situation is in the industry of making artificial sweetener. They take the opportunity of the way of consuming food by people. Nowadays, people very like to consume food with extra sugar. They believe that the sweeter the food, the better taste it will be. The opportunity makes the producers and businessmen become greedy. They want to achieve success in terms of profitability, without concerning the health consequences for the consumers.
The ‘Human’, which is the second aspect of life triangular diagram, needs to be taught or ‘Tarbiyah’ in correspondence with Ukhuwah. They must understand that they represent the soul that possessed by the Creator. Whether they are in the state of rational soul (Nafs Mutmainnah), army soul (Nafs Lawwamah), or animal soul (Nafs Amarah), they must be educated that there are ways to transform the soul through the spiritual-development process. One of the scholars, Rohana (2009) found that the stages of the self-development levels have a relationship with the intellectual potential. This can be described as, when the individual has achieved self-conscience (Mutmainnah), he possesses angelic power, where it is characterized by good heart and moral to describe it as the purest stage of spiritual development. This purest stage has the highest intellectual level compared to the level of Lawwamah and Amarah.
The final aspect of life triangular diagram is ‘System Structure’. System structure prepares a basis for approach to get a balanced life. The approach must comply with fundamental principle, where it is known by Muslim as Sunnatullah, God’s Law, or Law of Nature, as a reference. If human does not follow these Laws, they will get lost without guidance. The approach must embed a value of Hikmah, which means that, it is good and giving benefit to all people. In the case of artificial sweetener, the producer might not think of this. The benefit of the business can be enjoyed all by him, while the consumer suffers from dangerous disease such as diabetes, cancer, and malfunctioning body system.
If he believes with the Law of Nature, where bad deeds will be repaid with bad things, he will not run the business to benefit himself. He will help people with his knowledge and skills in business. To make this happens; the businessman must first understand the concept of Ikhlas, which is being the foundation of the life triangular diagram. Ikhlas or Sincerity is defined as cleansing the mind, purifying the heart, sanctifying the soul, in doing one thing from the beginning to the end for the sake of Allah SWT. By having sincerity in that individual, he will run the business to get profit, but in the same time he will help other people and get blessing from Allah SWT. All of these aspects; goal, human, and system structure; if they are understood and perfectly practised, the individual will be granted a blessed balanced life.
As a conclusion, everyone must understand the importance of getting a balanced life by following the guidance from the life triangle diagram. The approach which is based by Ikhlas, Hikmah, and Ukhuwah will assist the individual to better practice the management of life in order to get blessing from Allah SWT. A new education system should be established as an approach to educate all people, within young and old age, including all level of education to spread the awareness about the danger of artificial sweetener in food. The education approach must first cover the purpose of living in this life, biological body system, and socio-cultural effect of the sweetener industry and it is hoped that the awareness of this knowledge is spread out and passed through generation. Further research about healthy substitutes for artificial sweetener must be emphasized so that our community’s health will be sustained and further, everybody has good health which allows them to pray, work, and achieve success to get blessing from Allah SWT.